For many of us, back-to-school is just a memory—begging your mom for the best gel pens, picking out that perfect Trapper Keeper (hello, Lisa Frank), and finding our teeth in wires for the first time. But what if you could go back? What would you tell yourself?
Here are 13 bits of wisdom we’d share with our middle school selves:
- You do you. Don’t let anyone tell you who you should be, and never be ashamed of who you are. We mean it.
- We know you think you’ll have your life figured out by your 20s. You won’t.
- Try new things because you want to. You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.
- Everyone is awkward in middle school. It’s not just you. You’ll grow out of it … eventually.
- The things that are really hard now will make you stronger, but that doesn’t mean they’re fair.
- Have fun. Be adventurous. You won’t be young forever.
- One day, your siblings will be your best friends. Hard to believe, we know. Trust us on this one.
- Popularity seems like it’s the most important thing right now. It isn’t.
- It’s okay to say, “No.”
- Be kind to people, especially when no one else is, and don’t make fun of people. It hurts.
- It’s okay if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up.
- Your parents are human, too. They make mistakes, just like you do.
- It really does get better after middle school (high school, too).
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